Jr. Seau Stared Into The Abyss And Jumped.

My heart goes out to the family and friends of NFL legend Jr. Seau.  As most know by know Jr. is dead and suicide is suspected.  Newsworthy because he is a former superstar  professional athlete and celebrity.  Newsworthy because the ravaging effects of head injuries in the NFL are front and center in the media and in a court of law.  All too common however in the grand scheme of life.  In 2007, suicide was the tenth leading cause of death in the U.S., accounting for 34,598 deaths.  In Jr’s case, while maybe uncommon due to the head injury angle,  all too common in that it appears no one suspected.  All too common in the grieving and dumbfounded family and friends are left behind wondering how the hell someone who seemingly had a great life could see only hope in finality and did not cry out.  Depression and suicide do not discriminate between a Lexus and a Pinto.

It was not all that long ago that that I looked into that abyss.  I came all so close to Junior’s fate but for the intervention of people who cared.  Not only cared but were on the ground  able to actually see the changes in my behavior and react quickly.

This  slide into darkness has its own unique components for different people. Some are luckier than others in the support they get or their ability to reach out for that support.    I had family and friends that were in my life.  That is what saved me.  If I did not have that, I would be dead.

Medication works wonders. Talking to professionals helps. Having a family and friends who are active in your life is also important.  I was very lucky.  For whatever reasons which may or may not become clear, Jr. wasn’t.  Many are not.

What’s my point?  Very simple.  Pay attention to the people in your life and NEVER be afraid to speak up when something seems off.  That is what keeps us out of the abyss.



9 Responses

  1. Thanks for posting this Brian. As a suicide survivor I now recognize how taboo talk of this subject is. No one wants to think about the possibility of it for anyone in their life. And, often, there is no warning. I appreciate your bravery in speaking out.

    1. This is so true Brandy and we at Suicide and Crisis Center are working so had to make the awareness chart go off the roof.. brave people that do speak out our my angels.. we should all watch our friends and family and talk to them if there is a change in their behavior..

  2. Every time I hear of another suicide, it takes me back to the loss of my sister 8 years ago. She lost sight of all the love around her – and made a choice that she couldn't take back or have a "do-over". So happy you got help and LET those around you see joy again. Surely you still have struggles – just don't give up hope.

  3. Suicide is the easy way out, the most selfish thing anyone could do athlete or not. Zero sympathy from me if it crossed his mind rhen he could have seeked doctors help. He’s dead gone and who caresC

    1. you are a true, unadulterated piece of shit Kevin. The prime reason I could never stand you.

      1. Omygawd… who is this person that would say that.. I care and we all should. wow.. i have seen it all now.. tears on my keyboard that anyone could be so cruel.

  4. Thanks Brian for that well written article. I can relate 100% to your story as I to am a survivor because of my family who deeply cared, and friends who came to the rescue and got me help.

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